Visiting Day

Assalamualaikum all... Have you say your prayer for the safety of our arm personnel in Lahad Datu, Sabah? The Lahad Datu  isn't done yet, Malaysian army is still in their operation to clean up the 'left-over' Sulu terrorists. I still couldn't help myself from crying every time I see the sight of the kids and widows of the fallen  angels. My prayer is always with them. May Allah protect Malaysian army who is fighting for their nation. 

Today is Saturday. For those who are working, today is their day off. To the housewife, today is the day that they don't have to cook and enjoy their day without doing the housework. For me, today would be just like another day, as hubby is not around.

However, it turned out to be the other way round. Alhamdullillah, today is different than other day for me. Nothing unfortunate happen. 

I started my day by having great breakfast with my friend, Ainul. Ainul is my good friend, as I mentioned in my earlier post. She and her two boys came to house on the day hubby left to Bangkok. She recently got back from UK but her husband is still in UK, managing his business. And today is the last day Ainul sleeps in my house. My boys and her boys were having love-hate relationship since the day they arrived to my house. But we had a great fun. 

Parted after the breakfast, I returned home awhile to clean up Aaron. He pooed. Then I continued my journey to my uncle (Pak Ngah)'s house which is quite a distance from my house. Initially, I wanted to visit my grandmother, who is in my uncle's house. My grandmother just done an eye procedure and she stays for her upcoming check-up.

I was surprise and totally happy when I saw my another uncle's car parked at my uncle's house. My another uncle (Pak Njang) is staying in Kuala Kangsar and he is in Pak Ngah's house, visiting his mother. I also met his daughter, Ila, who happened to be my maid-of-honor. Ila and I are close since we were small as our grandmother is the one who was taking care of us. She is married and currently residing in her in-law's house.

My younger cousin, Asirah, also was celebrating her birthday just now. That explains why there is so much food on the table.

To make my day more interesting, my brother, Ayin, and his wife, Ziela, were there too! Ayin told me last night that  he will not sleep over in my house and straight away will return to Sungai Petani after he finished his business in Putrajaya. But he changed his mind lat minute and sleep at my uncle's house. It was good that both of them were there as I have somebody to help to take care of the kids while I mingle around!

Kedah Family!

Ziela, Baby Arissa, Mak, Pak Njang

Me and Ila

Aaron is making his move

Enjoying satay!

I made my move even before my cousin cut her birthday cake. I hate to wait any longer as I easily find it is bore to stay with some pretentious people. Yes! There are some, from my aun't clan! And I just couldn't stand them! Hahahaha...

So, I went to my another cousin's house. Yes! I have many cousins! My cousin, Imie, and his wife, Suraya, are expecting their second child. Their first, Anggun, is same age as Maleec. To tell you the truth, this is my favorite family. Imie is Ila's elder brother. Our age gap is just a year. They always visited me when I was in Wangsa Maju but they haven't come to my new house yet. Imie is staying in a condo in Pantai Dalam. I used to stay there too during my student time, but in other phase. Maleec eventually wanted to play at the playground which is around Imie's block. He didn't want to enter Imie's house until I promised him to bring him to the playground in a short while. Maleec went straight to the play room once he entered the house and he tried to lock the door, as stating that the room is belong to him now! Haish  Aaron in another hand, find himself comfortable with Imie's house. He was all over the place with the toys and Anggun was stunned, looking at my kids invaded her play room and her toys. It was a great visit and it ended with the kids playing at the playground. The two boys were so exhausted after the hectic day and dozed off in the car, all the way back to home. 

Alhamdullillah with what I have today... 

Your Life is in My Hand

Assalamualaikum. How are you today? For me, nothing much different with yesterday. My husband is still in Bangkok, Hans Isaac is still not able to marry Neelofa, Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie have their own wine label and Sulu terrorists are still in Sabah. 

 Few days ago, Malaysia been surprised with the news of a singer who beat her husband till death. She is the main suspect of the case, along with her two nephews. From the media, I learned that she and her nephews tied her estranged husband and beat him till death. This i to stop the husband from requesting to see their child. They are in the midst of divorce. Today, through a gossip column, a friend of the singer claims that she is the last person that the singer spoke to before she been detained by police. The friend told the media that the case is a self defense case as the husband attacked her first. The husband crashed into the house and started to beat her in front of her nephews. The nephews didn't help her until she was dropped to the floor. Both of her nephews managed to stop her husband from beating her and they used belt to tie him up. 

My question is, what is the reason can a person kill another person that they love or loved? This is not the first case we hear about a person kill their partner. How about the child kill their parents? From love to hate, what could trigger the action of killing your love ones?

From the story above and if the friend's story is the truth, the singer is not only defending her child, she also defending herself. Why she has to do the dirty work where as she can call for police's help? Perhaps the law is not securing her life and her child that she has to do what is beyond human right. 

Life is like a wheel, sometimes you are up and sometimes you are down. When we are at up, we should not forget that we might be down, too.  In making decision, we have to use our brain, not only by listening our heart. Think the consequences of the action that you plan to take. Don't do kit just because you think that is the short cut of getting out from the trouble. Think before you act. 

But the question again, how could you ended the life of the person you love? The life that we are leading is very stressful and full of surprises. We will be surprise with a person's capability to do many things that we are not think of. For example, a husband loves the wife unconditionally could kill the wife while she is nurturing their baby simply because the wife is nagging at the husband on his absence during the child delivery. 

So, be careful with your words and action. Don't think about yourself only, but think about others too. If you are tired, what make you think your partner is not tired as well. Try to avoid unnecessary argument as small matter could lead to big mistake. 

As the story I told above, if happen to be the court decided that the singer is at fault of killing her husband, their children is not only losing the father, bit also the mother. 

To my dear friends, I'm not perfect. I easily get angry especially with my kids and husband due to housework and many other reasons. But we have to think rationally on our action as we have to be responsible on that. This post is a reminder to me to always put my mind above my heart. 

Good night!

Negara Kita, Bangsa Kita, Agama Kita, Hanya Kita Yang Mampu ertahankannya, Bukannya Bangsa Lain, Sebab Mereka Tak Pernah Kisah

* I'm Malay and a Muslim and I'll do anything to protect Malays and Muslims, anywhere.

In early February 2013, a group of Filipinos landed into Malaysia at Lahad Datu, Sabah. They are fully armed and claimed they are the army of Sulu Sutanate. They are in Sabah of a mission to conquer Sabah. They believe that Sabah belongs to Sulu people and Malaysia took it away from them. To those who don't know where is Sabah, who are Sulu people and their connection with Malaysia, please do your homework before further reading. You need the information to relate to this entry. Thank you. 

Malaysia is being defend by the police under Polis Diraja Malaysia (PDRM). Why put the police, but not the soldiers? This is because it is not a war. They are intruders and not representing any country. Even the Philippines government is fully support the Malaysian government. Malaysian government gave the intruders a time frame for negotiation and to surrender however they chose war. 

The intruders attacked Malaysian police that cause 2 commandos died in Lahad Datu on last Saturday. The news shocked me hard. I was so devastated with the news because the commandos are my people. They are Muslims and Malays. They are the people who fight for my country, belief and race till the end of their life. They leave their family, wife and kids, and battle their life for our safety. 

From Facebook information, I learned that one of the commandos' kids are same age as Maleec and Aaron. His wife is younger than me. I can't imagine her life without her husband, their children without their father. I hugged Juma tightly last night, afraid that I might lose him, as how she lose her husband. I know it sounds so emotional and cheesy, but seriously, she can hug her husband no more. The kids can't play with their father anymore. Yet, there are some Malaysians making jokes about the lost. Shame on you! But who are they? They are the people that shouldn't be called as Malaysian. 

I understand that some people are so obsess with the upcoming General Election. Many young Chinese and Indians are so eager to vote for Opposition to take over the government as they wish that they could rule the country, not Malay and Muslim. FYI, the Opposition supporters who are mainly non-Malay and non-Muslim. Those non-Malay and non-Muslim Malaysians think that it is totally unfair that the Prime Minister of Malaysia has to be a Malay and Muslim. They think that they should have the equal right to challenge for that important post. Which I think it shouldn't happen. Reasons being that Malaysia's native people is Malay, therefore till the end of the world, Malays should rule MALAYsia. The Chinese and Indians are free to go back to their origin country, e,g China, India, using their grandfather's tongkang which were use to come to Malaysia. 

But don't politicize the Lahad Datu issue. Don't politicize the country's safety. This is not an issue for you to make up stories and rumors.

Look at the current situation. I can't see and hear any names of Indian or Chinese in the battle field. Who is there fighting for Malaysia to in peace? Of course they are my people; Malays and Muslims! The Chinese and Indians are here, in Malaysia, taking advantage on the country economy growth and barking all over the country and world, asking for equal right. 

From my social network account, I hardy see any comments from Chinese and Indians expressing their condolence or even feel sorry for the warriors' families. What I see and read is that it is a politic conspiracy or the Malaysian government tries to hide the information from the Malaysians and many other petty things. The Indians and Chinese hardly show their support to the Malaysian police and soldiers. 

Thus, to Indian and Chinese, I think you are not  only unfit to rule the country, but you are unfit to be in Malaysia. Many of you are proud that you had stayed overseas and give bullshits ideas on how to rule the country like the other country. With that, I suggest you to give away your MyKad and apply the citizenship of other country that you are so proud of. 

Shame on you who are not proud of your country, of your wira! Shame on you!

Leave Her For Me!

Are you married? I am. Are you afraid that other woman (e) might steal your husband away from you? I do. Is my self confident towards my husband is low? No. But why I must be afraid that he might leave me for other woman? Because I'm living in the year that people will do anything to meet their desire. My husband is a stable man in terms of his career, mature and that is what young ladies are looking for. He is not rich but he is in his mid of career and it could cushion those short minded woman. 

Lt's take a look at women who happen to be celebrities, that stole other's husband. 

1. Faezah Elai

The actress denied the rumors that she is in the relationship with a drama director, Heykal. Faezah worked in few drama series directed by Heykal and told the media that the relationship is nothing but professional. The director also gave statement to the media that his marriage is in trouble but it has nothing to do ith Faezah. However, the couple 'surprise' the media with their engagement news after the director divorced his wife. Heykal married Faezah shortly. Faezah and the ex-wife had twitter war, but shame on Faezah. The not-so-pretty-and-talented actress put herself at the very low level when she frighten the ex-wife that she will reveals unnecessary pictures of her if the ex-wife continue tweeting about Faezah. 

Faezah and Heykal welcome their first daughter in early 2013. 

During their solemnization

Heykal's ex-wife, Jaja Nadzir

2. Siti Nurhaliza

Indeed, she did that! Khalid Jiwa was still married to Tengku Zawiyah when he started courting Siti Nurhaliza. Siti Nurhaliza allegedly said that she isn't the third person of Khalid Jiwa and wife's separation. However, from the sources we knew that Siti Nurhaliza told Khalid to choose between she or Tengku Zawiyah. And of course Khalid chose the young, beautiful, rich and famous singer and left the wife. The wife was the one that helped him financially when he started his business. The wife that made him from nobody to somebody. Unfortunately, he prefers Siti Nurhaliza and choose to forget the memories including the deeds that the ex-wife did to him. 

So long, Tengku Zawiyah. 

On their reception

Tengku Zawiyah found new happiness

3. Memey Suhaiza

Malaysia been shocked with the news on the upcoming actress, Memey Suhaiza and a married actor, Norman Hakim have been arrested for close-proximity (khalwat) in Norman's office. Norman who was still married to singer-actress, Abby Abadi at that time. Abby was heavily pregnant of their third child when the incident happened. Abby was furious with the news, attacked Norman at the shooting locaion. Abby wasn't alone as she brought several reporters as the witness of the incident. They finally divorced. Norman and Memey got hitched and have a daughter together. Abby made peace with Memey when she invited Memey and Norman to her house for iftar. Abby also visited Memey and the baby, shortly after Memey welcomed her daughter. Alhamdullillah!

During their reception

Abby and her new image 

4. Watie Sadali

The problem actress was having an affair with her co-star, Joey. Joey who was still married at that time, neglected his wife and children while was in love with Watie. Joey chose to leave his family and marry Watie.  Joey's ex-wife gave a piece of advise to the artiste to stop having affairs with other's husband.

During their reception

There are more celebrities who have talent and bright future, but choose to destroy other's happiness to build theirs. Hopefully we don't be selfish at a point and may Allah prevent this from happening to my family. Amin. 

I Loved You

Assalamualaikum...

How's your day, so far? Today is not a worse day for me, but it had been better than it. My second son, Aaron Idris, is not with fever since yesterday. He couldn't sleep well last night and of course me as his mother, had to attend his needs. He was clingy and he wanted me to cuddle him all the night long. The result: I'm like a walking zombie today. 

I cooked simple dishes for the kids and myself as for lunch. I'll suggest to Juma for dinner at outside. I planned to visit my grandmother that in my uncle's house today, but i have to cancel it. I think I better stay indoor for Aaron's sake. 

I'm looking forward to meet my friend, Ainul Hayati, who is coming on the next week. Her husband, Azhan, is currently in the United Kingdom, managing his business. I knew Ainul through Azhan, way before they got married. Azhan is my ex-boyfriend and he has been my good friend since we broke up. He introduced me to Ainul, his then-girlfriend and told me that he really like her. I have no problem in getting along with Ainul. Her character is almost same like me and I guess that's the reason we could be good friend. 

Actually, I have no problem on keeping my friendship with my exes. Of course there are reasons why we broke up but I guess it shouldn't stop us from being friend. I admit I went out with numerous guys before my relationship with Juma started to become serious. I don't keep in touch with all of them, but most of them. Till now, we do contact each other via Facebook or we meet up sometimes. 

Some of them are married and has their own family. Some of them are Juma's friends. Some of them are working in the same environment as Juma. And I'm a lucky person as my husband has no problem with me being in touch with my exes. To him, best man wins and I should know my limit. Cool right? And I won't trade his trust with anything else, seriously!

How about those guys' other half? Some of their spouse are my friend and some of them are uncomfortable with me being close with their husband. I understand and I respect what they think and feel. They have all the right to think and have opinion on it. 

I come across some of my friends who can't befriend with their exes. Many factors lead to it, I understand. But to me, why should I waste the relationship that I've build before. If we can't be lover, we could be friend. If I use to love you before, no problem fro me to like you now, as a friend. What say you?

Price versus Quality, who win?

Assalammualaikum...

I got the idea of the topic today while I washed my dishes. As usual, I'll share my experience and towards the end, you'll know which side I take. 

When I was in Kuwait, I had no trouble in making decision on what products to use because generally the quality is equal. But when I returned to Malaysia, I realize that the quality is varies as it goes with the price. For example, the dishwasher liquid. If I shop in Tesco or Carrefour or Giant hypermarket, I can get their in-house brand of dishwasher liquid half of the price of Glo/ Palmolive/ Axion. However, the quality is very low. The dish is not well-clean, especially if the plate was oily. You have to use a lot to make it clean. And it needs lots of water to wash the liquid off from the dish. The smell is not pleasant as well. It also makes you hand skin dry. I use the hypermarket brand before and I just couldn't stand it. I stashed it away and bought a good quality dishwasher liquid which is easier to use and clean up. It also protect my skin from getting dry. The price is nothing compare to the quality it gives you. 

Maleec never milk using milk bottle as he got it directly from me. However, Aaron is not as lucky as Maleec and he is still using formula milk. I didn't have much idea about formula milk and milk bottle. So, I asked lots of questions to the nurses while Aaron was still in the hospital due to jaundice. The nurses told me to find NUK brand as for the milk bottle. And I bought it. I use that brand till Aaron reached one year old where I bought unbranded milk bottle. I could see the different quite immediately. The NUK bottle milk comes with its own teat design. To tell you the truth, Aaron never experience colic while using NUK bottle milk. The NUK teat replicates mom's nipple and it wouldn't confuse the baby. Plus, it is long lasting too! Comparing the NUK milk bottle, I found it is hard to clean the unbranded ones. The milk seems to be plastering at the wall of the bottle and I have to pour in hot water to dissolve it. The teat that comes with the unbranded milk bottle is low quality and usually I'll just throw it away and replace it with NUK's teat. I think if I'm going to get a new milk bottle for Aaron for the next time, I'm going back to NUK brand. Period!

Now, let's talk about shoes. I don't mind wearing unbranded shoes but I've learned to curb my expectation on it. I love leather shoes and I invest on buying some of the high end brand such as Salvatore Ferragamo, Bally and Bruno Magli. But for fancy shoes, which I wear sometimes, not for walking but juts parading, I use Vincci brand (Malaysia brand), and some I bought in Bangkok, Thailand. It is unfair to compare the quality as the price gap is big. Blister is the biggest problem when we talk about shoes. To avoid facing it, I use the leather shoes for walking. Leather is good for walking as it mold according to your feet and it allows you feet to breathe. But leather shoes is not cheap. It will be more expensive it is from designer brands. 

Do you like chocolate? Do you have a particular brand or product that become your favorite? I love After Eight. It is minty. I love any flavor of Toblerone. When I was pregnant with Maleec, Toblerone chocolate was one of the items that must have in my fridge. And I've taste unbranded chocolate. From the taste, we could tell the quantity and quality of the cocoa in the chocolate. 

In my opinion, to anything that we consume, the quality has to become the priority rather that the price. After a thorough calculation, you will be surprise to learn that the low quality but cheap item is expensive in another way. Look at the damage that it brings to you. However, we can't deny the demand of the cheap products as not everybody afford to buy the expensive ones. 

Happy spending!

Oscar 2013- Red Carpet

Lets take a look at what A-listers wore during Oscar 2013.

Jennifer Hudson

Nice blue dress, covering the arms, showing some legs. The material itself is divine. 

Salma Hayek

I'm starting to get bored with her hairdo. Can she take the challenge to wear different style of hair? The dress is great, just take it is a normal look of Salma; something tight that can show off her body. Boring!

Guliana Rancic

I think she was late for the red carpet. She didn't find time to done her hair. She was out from bath, put on a dress was given free to her and dash to the red carpet. I bet she did her make-up in the car, on the way to the event!

Amanda Seyfried

The style of the dress, the material of it, with classic hairstyle, Amanda looks gorgeous. Perhaps she wants it not to look crowded, therefore not much accessories on her. But I think it will zest up her look with a bracelet, perhaps diamond bracelet. However, she looks stunning, as usual.

Zoe Saldana

I love this dress! Can I have it, free? Look at the details at the chest. Look at the shade of colors at the bottom of the dress; from white to black. Look at the waist, the belt made the dress more interesting. Zoe is smart by adding the chandelier earring to her Oscar look. 

Reese Witherspoon

Hmm.. I expect more from you, Reese. The dress looks ill-fitting. It didn't cup her breasts well. The tummy area looks so messy. Argh! It looks un-finish to me!

Catherine Zeta-Jones

You look like a drag queen, Miss Jones! Please hire a new make-up artist, and advise your current want to change her career! The dress, owh, its a sore to my eyes! Yikes!

Jennifer Garner

I forgive her hairdo, though I'm kind of bored with it already. The dress save you, Mrs Affleck. Gorgeous dress with nice details at the back. Beautiful color too. And the necklace, oh, so breathtaking. 

Jennifer Chastain

Oh my! So classic! You look pretty, young lady. I'm speechless when I look at you. The hair, the makeup, the dress; everything matches!

Kristen Stewart

Your Oscar look is match with your acting talent, which is worthless. The dress is ugly as it looks like pillow case. Argh! Just get out from the Hollywood scene, please!

Sandra Bullock

The dress is heavily beaded. Too heavy for me. Can you show effort on your hair? I think it will give a better justify to the dress if Sandy pull up the hair and pin it. 

Jennifer Aniston

Effortlessly beautiful! Gorgeous dress, nice hairdo, simple yet chic accessories and nice candy arm!

Amy Adam

At last, I found somebody who tried. Gorgeous dress, as prestige as the award. The bracelet and earrings spice up her look. The hair is simple but matches Amy's style for the night. 

Did you watch the Oscar awards ceremony? What do you about the winners on that night? Did you see Jennifer Garner's expression when Ben won the Best Picture for Argo?  ...Behind a successful man there is a woman. Congratulations to the winners. 

And yes, Jennifer Lawrence is not here.